Category: the Rant Board
Since I've been on this marvellous broadband, I have absolutely loved taking advantage of ventrilo and the majority of the time, i have heaps of fun and laughs in there with my friends and others who I might meet up with, but what I hate hate hate is sleezy guys coming in (from the zone - but it is the case anywhere with the net) and start their sleezy comments about "how nice your voice is" and, these sleezy strangers want to immediately aim to have convos about your relationship status and bladybla bla.
Now in general terms, I have never ever understood anyone (even offline) behaving this way, and it makes me sad! It makes me sad that now I'm slightly scared to go into the ventrilo server because one or two people can't get it in their head that they plain well disgusts me. If you're horney for crying out loud go and .. fix it up all by yourself not make your mood known to the whole world!
Now I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm talking about a couple of people in particular here, but maybe this can be a warning! But it's not just the zone, it's anywhere. The worst mistake one can make is setting the chat programs up to automatically allow people to add themselves to your list! I have learnt about that one a few too many times, and now I have it!
I know girls can be just as bad, but in my particular situation, I have had to block quite a few guys who got on to my contact lists some how!
OK If there is a proportion of the population who can control their sexual urges, why can't the rest? And worse still, what is so hard to understand about "I'm not interested", "I don't like the way you are talking; please stop?", etc. i swear I think some guys just don't understand because their ears are also with any brains they may have - right down there below!
OK I'm done. I feel heaps better now.
Have a nice day. .. and I may get some sort of a crazy urge to enter in ventrilo again some day! :)
if it's happening to and by multiple people on the ventrilo server, it might be a good idea to let the admins know? If it's a big issue... I'm sure it can be handled.
ah dam rdfreak, i haven't even gotten a chance to abuse you yet, don't go so soon. but seriously, I've seen you on a couple times and have meant to say hi but have gotten sidetracked, please don't let some jack ass ruin your fun. I think those dumb asses that can't determine that a girl is not interested are everywhere and are empowered more so by the web. But again, dont let them chace you away from enjoying yourself.
Well Liam, since Rdfreak is a community leader, she'd be talking to herself, which may seem even more synical, lol. Seriously, I know the feeling though. Maybe just going to another channel or being forthwright about it. Hopefully they'll be reading this thread.
Maybe it is about time for one or more of the community leaders/admins to come up with a list of rules for people to abide by on the ventrilo server? What do you say J?
Yup thats kinda disgraceful that when you say "I'm not interested" they keep going. I know there's a block feature on Ventrilo so if someone gets all horney and makes you uncomfortable, just block them. Or better yet if you know who the people are, ignore them. If this fails and you and your friends happen to be on Ventrilo, go to another channel. On my personal website I had Ventrilo set up to where I had 4 private rooms, and gave those who wanted their privacey the option to password protect it, but only I was able to enter the room and all if I were logged in as a admin. Maddog, I def. agree with your idea. Maybe it's time to set some rules to the chat server. Questions are: Will they be followed? And will this put a damper on freedom of speech and expression?
I think we simply need to set up a "topic" a bit like MIRC that states "no means no. If you still don't understand, please seek professional help"! *grin*
You think the chats are infested with horny guys? well, I am on MSN often and I see many people from the zone adding me on their buddy list and wanting to chat with me JUST and ONLY because they realize I am female. They just come on and ask my name, my age and if I am single... There have been some who even admitted that the only reason they added me it was because they looked at my profile and saw I was female! They didn't even know me or ever talked to me before on the zone. It's very annoying. So I annoy them back and they never bother me again! LOL
well, I've not writing, but I've reading. Well in my opinion its not anoying, well, anoying? yes. But for the most part is rude.
I've had several people do similar stuff to me on paltalk. I'd be in a room talking to whoever was there, and someone would either come in and start talking shit, or hog the key then wonder why I wasn't talking to them.
So that's one of the reasons I don't use it anymore. I also was finding that it wasn't very speech-friendly, and it just got on my nerves after a while. And as far as creating this room you were talking about where people can't talk to you about this particular topic; on one hand, that could help things somewhat, but at the same time, let's be realistic.
As soon as these people see that they're being restricted from doing something around you, most likely, they'll just get worse, partly because they'll see they're getting a reaction out of you, and also because they're finding out you're setting limits now and they're going to want to overstep them just because they can. So I think in reality, just ignoring them would be the best thing to do, then they won't have a reason to keep harassing you.
the one thing I don't like about ventrilo is you can't tell who is in a room until you go in. Well, yes it tells you on here who is on the server, and I don't go on the server here, but there is no script to tell you automatically when someone comes in a room. I know some people have microsoft text to speech engine, but I have a single channel sound card, so if people were talking, I wouldn't hear the announcement. I guess if i were new to all chat rooms, it wouldn't matter at first, but I like to know who's in a room before I decide to go in, and I like knowing automatically when someone comes in the room so I can leave if I have to.
wonderwoman
I think it would be hard to inforce a policy on a chat server and, in any case, wouldn't that contradict the whole "freedom of speech" concept.
I mean, at parties you also have guys hitting on you. It's sad that people can't be civilized, I think there's nothing wrong with some guy asking a girl if she's single and how old she is, going further than that, yes, but just checking, there's nothing wrong with that (how you doin' <grin> and, no, I don't do this myself but I can't see this being a problem).
I mean, really the only thing you can do is block them I think and/or, of course, get a male login name <grin> and pretend to be a "Brian".
cheers
-B